Opiate Addiction Explained

Recovered vs. Recovery Which Is It?

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A common topic of argument amongst professionals working in the field and those going through drug and alcohol recovery, is the one between recovered and recovery.  At what point is a person considered to have moved on from recovery to recovered?  This week, Vincent Jones, gives his take on this divisive topic.

Vincent, we hear a lot about people labeling themselves recovered vs recovering, what is your take on these two labels that seem to get everyone all knotted up.

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Many times over the years in recovery meetings, someone will broach the topic of, is someone recovering or is someone recovered?  I have had fist fights break out in recovery groups over is someone recovered or are they recovering.

Well first let’s be clear.  Those who suffer from the disease of addiction, has a condition that works on a daily reprieve.  The only time the individual can stay sober, the only time the individual can stay clean is right now today.  The time they get into trouble is when they begin future tripping or going back into the past.  The big book of alcoholics anonymous calls that morbid reflection.

When I am looking backwards its depression, when I am looking forward its anxiety.  Its never going to be good it’s always going to be bad.  Which then opens them up to pain and they reengage with intoxicants.

Recovered vs recovering?  Well. You can be anything that you want.  You can call yourself a giraffe if you want to as long as you’re not drinking or using.  But a recovered individual, is some who is invested in the process, they have invested themselves into their sobriety and they are doing the work in order to stay clean and sober today.  Recovering in tones that it’s a work in progress, something out there in the future that I need to achieve.  Well then that places in me in anxiety.  What I need to be is recovered today, and be willing to do whatever is necessary for me to hold on to my sobriety so I can find those that wish to recover, and bring the path to them.  Now again, you can call yourself whatever you want. You can be recovered, you can be recovering, hell you can be a giraffe.  As ling you are doing the necessary work today for you to be clean and sober today.

Avoid the confrontations avoid the arguments, be in recovery.  Share the good news of your life in recovery today. And help all those poor souls that have to be in the grip of recovering.

Avoiding the Stigma of Rehab and Keeping Your Privacy

This week Vincent Jones, of Healing Path Recovery, A drug and alcohol rehab clinic in Newport Beach California, talks about the issues of privacy and the stigma that many in recovery fear.

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When I began on my path to recovery, many years ago, Facebook didn’t exist.  There was no social media, there were no cell phone cameras.  And I am grateful for that, there would probably still be pictures and YouTube videos following me around that I could never live down.

Today, recovery, if you make the decision to go to a recovery facility a rehab, are they truly
going to maintain your anonymity?  For many of us, it’s not an issue.  When I made the decision to get clean and sober, everybody knew I had a problem, so there was nothing to be concerned about somebody finding out that I was in recovery, as a matter of fact it was a positive.

But there are those that have real concerns about their true identities being exposed, possibly by accident. Today, with the explosion with t videos and selfies, and the ubiquitous nature of the internet today, your anonymity could be exposed without you even knowing it.  Consider carefully, if you’re in a profession and are someone who is very concerned about keep their anonymity, there is a way you can go.  With Healing Path Recovery, our clinic maintains the highest caliber of confidentiality for those seeking it when going through drug and alcohol treatment.

The Importance of Getting Your Child Drug Tested

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If you have a son or daughter who suffers from alcoholism and or addiction, and they are in recovery meaning that they are trying to remain sober, it is extremely important to consider drug testing your child regularly.  Especially if you are required to help them, for example, financially or providing a place for them to live If you’re involved in their lives, don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by them,  You need to make sure that they are getting drug and alcohol testing On routine basis There are always if you go on the Internet search for You can order at home drug testing kits, These are easily attainable on the Internet however they may get a bit expensive and an up and If you decide to go with the at home testing, you need to be sure you and your child have an agreement, whether your child is 12 or 32, the agreement needs to be very solid.

You let the child know that unless they do the drug testing when you ask them to, there will be consequences, and the consequences need to be that you will not support them, in any way unless they continue to do the drug testing, at my recovery center, healing path recovery, we test patients atleast 3 or 4 times a week for drugs and alcohol. The tests are done on-site, our patients know, they are required to do the testing, every time they are asked, there are no excuses to say for example, “I don’t want to do the test today,”, we do urine tests and oral swabs, interchangeably, so the patient can’t trick us one way or another.  And especially with oral swabs, they to put the swap in their mouths, in front of us, it is done immediately, so there’s no excuse for example, “Oh I will do this later.”

Accountability is a big part of what we do in our recovery program for the patients, it empowers the patient to feel that they are responsible and they are not going to get away with manipulation, so they hold themselves accountable and learn to be honest, and it also helps us to know the patient is working with us in getting better. We do not punish patients if they test positive. We will address it, we will have plans for them to improve, and again if we don’t know they have relapsed we cannot know where we are in the path to recovery. Now again, if you have a son or daughter who suffers from alcoholism and addiction, holding them accountable for the recovery is extremely important. Make sure they’re drug tested, on a routine regular basis, and make sure they don’t skip any of these tests.

How Addicts Use Manipulation

This week Dr. B talks about recognizing and dealing with the three types of manipulations addicts and alcoholics will use to get their way.

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If you have a son or a daughter who suffers from alcoholism or and addiction, you need to know that you are probably being manipulated by them. It is part of the addiction disease to use manipulation to continue their habit and to get what they need.  As a parent of an addict dealing with a child with addictions, I think you need to be aware of all the different ways that you are being manipulated and you need to have very firm boundaries so you can eliminate the manipulations and stay connected with your children.  These children can be anywhere from teenagers, pre-teens to grow up adults that are married and live on their own.

One of the very common ways that children manipulate their parents is for money.  Addiction and alcoholism is usually very expensive and the person who is suffering from the disease will need finances to support their habit.  What they do is they will be coming to you for money.  It is very important not to give into this type of manipulation.  Lying is typically part of the manipulation too.  Hey may tell you they need money for a variety of different things. I have heard stories, where a person would say something such as, “Oh my drug dealer has threatened to kill my wife, unless I pay for his debt that I owe him. Do not believe these things, if someone is threatening to kill someone else call the police.  Take measures to protest the person in danger but do not just simply give money to your child. They will come up with extreme examples such as the one I just told, or saying, “Well if I don’t pay for this or this I will lose my car, I will lose my license”  And you as a person need to understand, you need to allow your son or daughter to face the consequences of their actions.  One of the very common ways parents get into this disease financially and support their children’s disease financially is by bailing them out of jail when they have been arrested for either possession for drugs or alcohol or driving under the influence, if your son or daughter is arrested and call for bail.  You need to tell them No.  Being arrested is a consequence of drug or alcohol abuse and they need to face the consequences by rescuing your son or daughters you are not doing them any favors.  You are allowing them to basically get away with murder and will continue doing the things they should not be doing.

Another form of manipulation is asking for a place to stay and asking for you tot ake them places.  Again if they have lost their license because of driving while under the influence, make sure they learn to take the bus. You are not their chauffeur. In a lot of cases, I have seen them take their parents to where they get their drugs and or alcohol.  You do not want to do that. With financial manipulation also comes unfortunately the process of stealing.  When you start saying no to your children, they may start stealing from you.  If it is very common of you to leave money around to see it go missing. If you leave your wallet around you may find money missing? You need to hold on to your valuables very carefully.  If you’re not going to be home and your son or daughter doesn’t live with you don’t give access to your house. Don’t give them a key. You will be surprised to find what is missing.

Another way children manipulate their parents is getting out of what they are supposed to be doing.  For example you want them to work as a means for paying for their car or gas, surprisingly enough they will never find a job because they will be too busy doing alcohol and drugs.  But that is not what you hear.  You will hear excuses.  And again this goes back to money and again, do not support them while they are looking for a job. Tell them ok when you find a job, you will be able to afford things that you need to pay for.